I am reading Jeffrey Gitomer’s sales blog where he talks about confidence. But, it is sounding like what a guru would say, not a regular person. But, his statement is true. Your confidence, and your ability to arouse confidence in others does depend on your internal thoughts and image. So, if you feel that you can’t do something. Find a way to make a small success, and then build on that. Make a slightly bigger success after that, and then a little bigger. Soon, without realizing it, you will have the confidence of a moose with very large antlers.
It is interesting. I can look at someone’s picture and know if they have confidence. What does your picture say about you — besides that you are having a bad hair day.
If you have a poor self-image, start working on that today. A poor self-image starts with the thought, “I can’t”. It arises from a mind with limitation. We all have perceived limitations. But, you need to expand your mind. That is the real solution to poor self-image.
The greatest success is when your self-image is not dependent on what others say. I have people tell me how annoying and stupid I am on a daily basis. I think it is really funny. Because, I think I am annoying and smart. I regard being annoying as a positive trait. I work with people who don’t do what they are supposed to unless you annoy them constantly. So, I developed the trait of being annoying. Luckily, that train comes naturally to me! The minute these nitwits start doing what they are supposed to, I will have no more reason to be annoying. Then, I will have a problem — who will I annoy?
See your negative traits as positive. Do you get angry? Anger is good — to a point. Sure, don’t get mad and kill someone. But, anger can wake peopel up if they are doing the wrong thing. If you are a nice Hindu and tell someone in our nice gentle tone of voice that what they are doing is destructive, they might ignore you. Get angry and tell them, “Knock it off buddy”. You might get better results. So, don’t feel bad about yourself because you are angry sometimes. Anger is good.
What if you are not intellectually astute? This is also not a bad quality. If everyone were smart, there would be so much competition for smart-people type jobs, that smart people wouldn’t be able to get them most of the time. Think of the damage to society if everyone were smart. So, being a blockhead is not a bad thing. Someone has to be a blockhead. Just say, “I am a knucklehead, and that is okay!”
So, to sum things up. Think positively about ALL of your attributes. If others think you are a terrible person, learn to think that is funny. Your attachment to what others think can kill you internally. Also, think of all the positive things that are happening and that could happen. Follow my suggestions, mix with water (if you live in India, then filtered water), and then you will have unlimited confidence — guaranteed!